a long day of work!?!There has to be a way to make this whole dating thing easier. I have totally ruled out blind dates. It's way too much of a crapshoot. Then you have to explain to your mutual friend why you were not interested. Inevitably, someone gets hurt. But if you are not willing to be set up, where do you meet people? It's hard for busy professionals to take the time to find people to date.
I thought I would check out what online dating searches people were doing. Yes, the concept is kind of scary. Someone you meet could be leading a secret double life and have an entire family in another state! But I have also heard so many good stories about couples who have met online and ended up living happily ever after. You could also get to know the person before you have to meet them and not waste your time with people you don't really like. Now that is important!
Lots of people are searching for classified personals and online dating sites. I have heard a lot about dating services lately. It's almost like being set up by friends, but I think that they take more criteria into account. I would love to go speed dating (even though I have yet to get my single friends to agree to the outing), it would be an adventure if nothing else. You wont catch me in any dating chat rooms, but apparently tons of other people are going to them.
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Reader Comments (Page 3 of 6)
41. Brad
I liked everything you said until weight. I think many people nowadays don't look and see the real person inside. That upsets me. Not because I'm hugh, but because every person out there has so much to give, and many go from the outside in. So sad. There are truly wonderful people out there, if only people wouldn't be so shallow.
Posted at 6:11PM on Dec 17th 2007 by Sandy
42. I'm done with dating, will stay single, can't find anyone good, who is caring and only sees the outside, and not the good within.
Posted at 6:12PM on Dec 17th 2007 by DONE
43. I have not had any success at 3 different dating sites. I guess I am the problem. I love home life, and I like to travel to other countries. I am 67 and I have always tried to stay fit and eat right. I am still the same weight 196, and the same blood pressure that I was when I got out of the army at 21. I am very active for my age but when it comes to dating I am still attracted to women in their late 40's or early 50's who have taken good care of their bodies. I date women younger than this when I go to europe. The date sites only send me information from women who are my age, overweight and have numerous health problems. I am looking for someone to enjoy life with, not be their caretaker.
Posted at 6:21PM on Dec 17th 2007 by Edward
44. Can you blame people for not being honest about age and weight. I mean, look at the way heavy people are talked about these days. It makes them have to lie. Society is being so hard on them, and it is not right. They are good people with honest feelings just like skinny people. I think sometimes if you take the time, really take the time to get to know that person, you would find very sweet and under standing people. Society makes people liars, because they all want them to be like in Hollywood. I don't blame the people. I think many say let them meet me and then get to know me. I mean come on, would you accept someone if they said short, overweight with many pimples, they are honest, but would you show up? Ask yourself! Get to know the real person for once. Hey, that is life people, pure and simple, you do it on the computer, you take your chances. Just don't be mean about it. Skinny or Heavy, people have feelings!
Posted at 6:21PM on Dec 17th 2007 by Lynne
45. For every "success story," there are many more times over of the horror stories. Post #3 was right about the deluded, think they deserve it all women out there. To be able to make a match with one that at least tells the truth and hasn't slept with everything thing that moves is difficult at best. I am sure that the women also have similar stories about looking for a male partner, but the truth of the matter is that they are giving up the goods with out any resistance so why buy the cow when the milk is available for free? lol
Posted at 6:22PM on Dec 17th 2007 by ajm33771
46. just wanted to say one of my best friends meet her hubby on line she lived in ohio and he lived in west virgina now they both live in west virginia and are very very happy. i never meet my hubby online i meet him one the phone.he had stoped at a pizza place to make a call.and a guy he knows was on the phone talking to a girl at my house.and his buddy told him he knew a girl he cold talk to .and the next night he was at my house it took me 3 or 4 hrs before i would talk to him.but then i did. and we have now been together over 7 years. life is a chance so take some never know what is around the corner. i am very happy
Posted at 6:22PM on Dec 17th 2007 by justloveme76
47. If you use the computer to find a date use the computer to research this date BEFORE you agree to meet him. At a minimum go to google and put in his name and see what comes up. And, go to www.dontdatehimgirl.com and search his name to see what other women may have written about him. Any new guy you meet is someone else's ex and quite possibly ex nightmare. Sociopaths have a field day with the internet because they are able to cross physical boundaries to target their victims.
Posted at 6:30PM on Dec 17th 2007 by Kiimvend
48. I'm from L.A. Dating Online or in-person hasn't worked for me. I'm tall, pretty, funny, financially secure, etc. I meet guys constantly but they turn out to be players and liars. A few even turned out to be married. Sheesh! Every female that I know is going through the same nonsense. I give up.
Posted at 6:30PM on Dec 17th 2007 by emailbelinda
49. I have had pretty good luck with online dating in the past, but it seems that within the last year or so, popular sites like "Match.com" are becoming more superficial and are trolling spots for men looking for a physical good time, rather than marriage. For women that are real catches hearing, "Wow you are really pretty" just doesn't do it. Yes we want stability, and zest for life and vision in our partners, why should we feel bad for wanting that in men we are interested in being the possible future fathers of our children? I work really hard, come from a good family, went to a good school, and happen to be attractive. Where are the guys that are a good match for that? ..On a side note..perhaps will make you smile... I am nurse and one of my patients had a baby and named him "Webster." I asked, "What a great name how did you think of it?" (thinking to myself of the old TV series I watched growing up). She replied, "Well as a matter of fact, his father and I met on the web! We thought it was fitting." Cute story huh? Maybe there is hope for online dating after all?
Posted at 6:36PM on Dec 17th 2007 by laurenawilkinson
50. I met my boyfriend on myspace ...of all places. We started out as pen pals and it grew from there. I have made some good friends and have had some fun times through myspace. But I started out with the goal of making friends. And if a fellow wasn't willing to be my friend first, then he had no chance of being anything more.
Posted at 6:41PM on Dec 17th 2007 by rbcca
51. I just want to say that online dating do work if your expectation is for a realistic relationship. There are no such thing as a perfect match, but if you only work at it, it is possible. As for me, I did used onlune dating simply because I'm just way too busy to be looking for a date in the real world. I went thru some rough roads but eventually found my future soulmate... And fakers should look themselves up in the mirror before engaging on the online dating because they are only kidding themselves ultimately...
Posted at 6:44PM on Dec 17th 2007 by Ron A
52. My husband and I met in an AOL chatroom and we will be married 7 years January 18th, 2008. I did have bad experiences with men I met online but I didn't let that stop me from trying till I got it right. I do agree that you let them come to you and not go to them. If they want you to do that chances are they are married or a kook. At least if they come to you, that your on your own turf and can have friends or family either with you or know whats going on. But I got lucky and met my soulmate and Love him dearly still.
Posted at 6:52PM on Dec 17th 2007 by Judy
53. Oh.....I meet my late husband on our church website, after being married a few years he passed away, so after a couple years I thought I would try the website again, to meet someone to talk with. WELL...he was from Idaho, we got married and he moved to Dallas. After only 4 months he stole $60,000 from me and disapeared. No more interest in even talking with another one.
Posted at 6:53PM on Dec 17th 2007 by Vivian
54. I met my current boyfriend online. He's great and we are so happy.
For you people on here nagging about how everyone online is si superficial and how nobody ever responds to your e-mails have you ever thought about this? Maybe it's not them, it's you? You post a photo online because looks do count for something. If someone is not attracted to you then they aren't. Just because you e-mail someone does not mean that they HAVE to respond! Get over it.
Posted at 6:56PM on Dec 17th 2007 by columbiasarah80
55. My husband and I met online in a chat room in 96, been happily married sents 98....it does work. but you need to be safe about it. there are alot of fakes out there. we chatted online and on the phone for a yr before we finaly met IN a VERY public place.
Posted at 6:57PM on Dec 17th 2007 by gatorsmom
56. The article is all well & good, but what about MEN trying to find a FEMALE companion? You never mentioned that.
Posted at 7:00PM on Dec 17th 2007 by Mark Manozzi
57. i met my husband online...AOL instant messanger! granted...we only lived about 5 miles apart and our parents actually knew each other..but..if it hadn't been for AOL..i would never have met the love of my life.
Posted at 7:01PM on Dec 17th 2007 by janet
58. I met my current one and only online. I lied about my weight while chatting online and when he suggested we meet, I freaked out. We met and sparks flew instantly. He didn't care about my weight,but how I felt toward him. To this day , he always tells me how cute I am. He was the one who supported me while I attended college and because of him I did graduate.It's been two years and I love him more than we first met.Ladies, there are good men still left(no he doesn't have any brothers).
Posted at 7:02PM on Dec 17th 2007 by Paula
59. I think online dating is wonderful! I have friends who have met their spouses online, and I also met my husband through eharmony.com. I tried many different web sites and chat rooms, and have met several nice people through them. My husband and I are a true match, and can't imagine life without the other.
Posted at 7:03PM on Dec 17th 2007 by Donna
60. I met my wife on Match.com about 6 years ago...we were both widowed and were looking for a new relationsship. We dated for 5 1/2 years and re-married on June 30th of this year. Online dating is tough...it takes a lot of time and it's not as easy as everyone thinks, but if you're willing to spend the time and really work at it, it can be very rewarding. I'm glad I did it.
Posted at 7:05PM on Dec 17th 2007 by Steve Scharfe